A Parent's Worst Nightmare: Kidnapped and Taken Abroad
International Custody Disputes on the Rise: Families Fight
Beaucracy to Reunite With Children
By:By ANDREA CANNING and IMTIYAZ DELAWALAABC News
August 16, 2009
It's been more than four months since Michael McCarty has seen his
8-year-old son, Liam. Today the young boy sits in an Italian
orphanage, the product of an international custody dispute gone
terribly wrong.
Some parents resort to desperate measures when
their kids are trapped abroad.
"Every day is a struggle," McCarty told "Good
Morning America's" Chris Cuomo. "You wake up. There are good
days, there are bad days. You just get through it."
Two years ago, Liam was kidnapped by his Italian-born mother after
American courts gave custody of the boy to McCarty. Italian
authorities soon deemed her unfit to care for her son. But despite
being an American citizen, the Italian courts won't send Liam
home.
"He has been traumatized by this experience," McCarty
said of his son, who has been in the care of Italian social services
since February. "You can only imagine what it might be like for a
5-year-old child to be torn away from everything he knows."
But McCarty is far from alone. New Jersey father David Goldman has
spent five years trying to bring his son, Sean, home from Brazil. His
ex-wife traveled there and never returned, remarrying before she died
last year leaving Sean with his stepfather.
"I'm his only living parent," Goldman told "Good
Morning America" in June. "And it's our God-given right to
be together."
A report by the U.S. Department of State said last year alone more
than 1,000 American children were abducted to a foreign country by a
parent. That's a substantial increase from three years ago, when 642
children were taken out of the country.
State Department officials said the rise in binational marriages
combined with the unstable U.S. economy may be factors in the increase
as laid-off foreign-born workers return to their home country with
their children, dividing more families.
State Dept.: Don't Take Law in Own Hands, but Many Parents Do
Today 17-year-old Danna Huggins is your average American teenager.
But for five years, she was held in Jordan by her grandparents after
her father's death while her American mother tried desperately to
bring her home.
"It was very hard, not with my dad, not with my mom or my
sister," Huggins said. "I was there by myself. I almost gave
up."
Huggins' mother, Sharon, spent years working diplomatic channels in
vain to get her daughter back to Kansas. But finally she took matters
into her own hands, traveling to Jordan and stealing her daughter
back.
"The State Department tells you not to take the law in your
own hands, and I tried every way," Sharon Huggins said.
"There was always some kind of obstacle in the way.
"I try not to think of it as kidnapping; I think of it more as
rescuing her," she added.
Others frustrated with diplomatic channels, and who have enough
resources, have sought help from professionals such as former CIA
agent Fred Rustmann. His company CTC International Group Limited has
orchestrated successful rescue operations of abducted children from
Latin America to Europe to the Middle East.
"There is nothing more complicated than a child recovery
operation," Rustmann said. "They are all different, but they
are all horrible in the sense that they require an awful, awful lot of
planning, surveillance, everything must be timed down to the
minute."
But most parents such as Michael McCarty and David Goldman remain
at the mercy of an international justice system that can be
agonizingly inefficient.
Still, Danna Huggins said, for the children at the other end of
these disputes, getting home is all that matters.
"There's always hope, never give up," Huggins said.
"If you want it to happen, it'll happen."